Secrets to Developing Emotional Mastery

If you master this skill, you can achieve anything! Great advice from Brendon Burchard:)

How to Achieve Your Dreams (and Keep Going When It's Hard!)

This is SO important, such great advise from Brendon Burchard. It'll always get hard with whatever you are doing, just keep going, keep learning, keep growing.

Increase Your Chances For Personal Success

By Vyara Bridgeman

Success, as most other things in the world, is a subjective thing. Two people may be in the exact same situation, say financially, but one of them may deem themselves successful while the other one may think of themselves as a financial failure. In fact, you may not consider someone to be financially successful and yet that person may think they are super successful. Likewise if someone does seem to you financially successful, it doesn't mean that this person has the same experience of themselves. And as we all know, how you feel about your life is what matters, not how other people think you should feel.

So now the question is: What do people who think of themselves as successful have that sets them apart from the ones that see themselves as a failure? Is it self-esteem? Is it confidence? Or could it be perhaps optimism? Are they sometimes delusional? Or do they simply have low expectations of themselves?

In my view, the perception of personal success is neither an expression of stupidity nor of some kind of limitless self-belief. Rather, personal success is a product of self-love.

Practicing deep self-love works on several fronts to guarantee your personal success. Firstly, it transforms your experience of who you actually are. And who you are is a divine being, perfection in all sorts of imperfect forms and shapes. As a result, your confidence and self-esteem go up, you become more optimistic and you start celebrating not only the big achievements but life in general. You see yourself as a success. Secondly, practicing self-love sends out a constant message to the universe: "I am worth it, please award me". And the Universe responds accordingly. You start attracting experiences and manifest achievements that reflect your worthiness.

Now, is the road to self-love a difficult one? It is, if you say so. But it doesn't have to be. Start small by saying "I love myself". No matter how fake it sounds, be consistent with it and the message will eventually get through to your core. If you want to take the short-cut, choose a therapy that works directly on the subconscious. And get this: experiencing self-love is not only going to help you feel successful; it will also help you experience true love for another human being. You can't love someone else if you don't love yourself first. Likewise, you can't be loved by other people until you can love yourself. So don't think that self-love is a selfish thing. Quite the contrary - learning to love yourself is actually the most altruistic act you could perform. If we all cultivate self-love, we will all be capable of loving others and feeling successful in life at the same time.

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It's Never Too Late to Become a Millionaire | Jack Canfield

Great advice from Jack Canfield. It is NEVER too late!!

Self Confidence: Learn How To Develop With The Law Of Attraction

By Brian Miller

When you are unhappy, one of the first questions that you need to ask yourself is what your overall opinion of yourself really are you satisfied with the way you live your life or are there certain areas that could use some improvement? For instance, if you do not like the person that is looking back at you whenever you look into the mirror, it is pretty clear that you need to do something about your self confidence. Maybe it is a weight loss issue.

Either way, it all changes if you stop criticizing yourself and everything you do and just take a step back. Look at the big picture and make some difficult decisions. Begin by loving every single inch of the person that you see whenever you look into the mirror. Nobody is perfect and every single one of the people you meet on a daily basis have similar doubts. Some of them allow these doubts to affect their self confidence, some prefer to work through them.

What you need to keep in mind is that you are the only one that has the power to change something. Regardless if we are talking about your view regarding your body image, about extra pounds, about your hair colour or the way you dress, you must learn to embrace it all.The weight loss process takes some time and it should involve smart lifestyle changes. Visualise yourself skinny, wearing those jeans that have never fit you and be ready to put in all the required work. You are just right, even though you are not at your ideal weight. This does not mean that you need to just allow yourself to pack even more extra pounds. Love yourself the way you are, but make changes to become a better version.

The undeniable truth is that weight loss will always help with self confidence, especially if you start getting compliments on a daily basis. The first person that should be making those compliments should be you! Look into the mirror and give yourself a pep talk each day. It does not have to be long or complicated. Look at the big picture and make some difficult decisions. Begin by loving every single inch of the person that you see whenever you look into the mirror. Nobody is perfect and every single one of the people you meet on a daily basis have similar doubts. Just acknowledge every single bit of progress that you see and push yourself a bit further each time. If weight loss is on your mind, opt for the healthiest solution.

Make sure that you remind yourself just how beautiful you are. Think healthy thoughts and do not expect to get rid of pounds in a matter of days. The weight loss process takes some time and it should involve smart lifestyle changes. Visualise yourself skinny, wearing those jeans that have never fit you and be ready to put in all the required work. Find motivation in the positive thoughts that you keep thinking every single time you are faced with making a healthy or an unhealthy eating choice. Your confidence level will definitely improve!

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5 Ways To Improve Your Luck

By Andy Gibson 

Over the past many years, I have asked more than a thousand men and women this question: What do lucky people do that unlucky people don't do?

Their answers have led me to conclude that five major characteristics distinguish the lucky from the unlucky. Furthermore, I am convinced that most people can improve their luck simply by incorporating these characteristics into their daily life. Here's what you can do:

1. Form Many Friendships. In general, the luckiest people are those who have many friends and acquaintances. O. William Batalla, and executive "headhunter" who brings luck to people in the form of lucrative job offers, has analyzed the chains of circumstance that led him to winning job candidates. The majority of such chains turned out to be those of acquaintanceship.

"Lucky people," says Batalla, "are gregarious. They go out of their way to be friendly. They talk to strangers. They're joiners, meeters, greeters. If they sit next to somebody on an airplane, they start a conversation. The man who sells them their morning newspaper is more than just a face. They know his name and how many kids he has and where he went on his vacation."

Dr. Stephen Barrett, a Pennsylvania psychiatrist, finds that not only do lucky people have the knack of initiating friendly contacts but they also have a certain magnetism that makes them the targets of 'others' friendly approaches. Barrett calls this a "communication field." He believes that facial expressions, body positions, voice tones, choice of words, ways of using the eyes form a communication field clearly visible to other people.

"We usually know instinctively whether somebody likes us or not," he says. "We can meet a total stranger and know in seconds if he or she wants to spend more time with us. Lucky people communicate inviting and comfortable signals."

The bigger your web of friendly contacts, the better your odds of finding some pot-of-gold opportunity. Actor Kirk Douglas, for one example, got his first big break through an earlier contact with a then-unknown actress, Lauren Bacall. She was only one of many people whom the gregarious young Douglas had befriended. But by befriending many, he increased the chances that a helpful Bacall would turn up.

2. Honor Your Hunches. A hunch is a conclusion based on facts that your mind has accurately observed, stored and processed. But they are facts that you don't consciously know because they are stored on some unconscious level of awareness.

Hotel man Conrad Hilton owed his monumental success partly to a finely tuned hunching skill. Once he was trying to buy an old hotel in Chicago whose owner was selling to the highest bidder. All the sealed bids were to be opened on a certain date, and several days before the deadline Hilton submitted a $165,000 bid. He went to bed that night feeling vaguely disturbed and woke with a strong hunch that his bid was not going to win. "It just didn't feel right," he said later. Acting on this strange intuition, he submitted another bid: $180,000. It was the highest bid. The next one down was $179,800.

Hilton's hunch could have welled up from stores of facts in the recesses of his mind. Ever since he bought his first hotel as a young man in Texas, he had been gathering knowledge about the business. 

Moreover, in bidding on that Chicago hotel, he undoubtedly knew much about the likely competing bidders--knew it without being able specifically to articulate it. When his conscious brain assembled known data and produced a bid, his subconscious was rummaging in a huge dark warehouse of other facts and concluded that the bid was too low. He trusted the hunch, and it was magnificently right.

How do you know whether to trust a hunch? Says one successful huncher, a retired stockbroker, "I ask myself: Is it conceivable that I've gathered data on this situation without realizing it? Have I found out all I can about it, done all the work I can? If the answers are yes and if the hunch feels strong, I tend to go with it."

Two warnings: One, never trust hunches about such things as lotteries and slot machines. There is no possibility that such a hunch can well up from some hidden pool of facts inside you, because there 'are' no facts. And two, never confuse a hunch with a hope. A lot of bad hunches are just strong wishes in disguise.

3. Be Bold. Lucky people tend to be bold, and the most timid, with exceptions, the least lucky. Luck probably creates boldness, but boldness also helps create good luck. To act boldly, follow these rules:

• Be ready to zigzag, to jump off in a new direction, when a good opportunity comes your way.
• Know the difference between boldness and rashness. If you bet your life savings on a spectacular venture in which you stand to lose everything that is rash. If you accept an exciting new job opportunity even though you are scared by the thought of stepping into the unknown, that is bold.

J Paul Getty, the oil billionaire and a supremely lucky man, zigzagged in his early years. He went to college thinking he wanted to be a writer. Then he decided he wanted to enter diplomatic service. Out of college, however, he found himself attracted by the Oklahoma oil boom, in which his father was then enriching himself. The oil business was off Getty's main route, but he felt compelled to postpone his diplomatic career for a year and try his hand as an oil wildcatter.

Young Getty was bold, not rash. He never entered a venture whose cash requirements, in the event of a loss, were big enough to cause him serious hardship. His first few ventures were flops. But in 1916 he hit his first major producing well. It founded his fortune--when he was but 23!

Lucky? Of course. But Getty deserves to be lucky. He had done everything right. How did Getty know the well would produce? He didn't, although he had gathered all the facts he could. "There is always an element of chance," he said, "and you must be willing to live with that element. If you insist on certainty, you will paralyze yourself."

4. Limit Your Losses. Lucky people discard bad luck before it becomes worse luck. This sounds like a simple trick, but many people--the essentially unlucky--never seem to master it. There is almost always a time at the start of any souring venture when you can get out with a minor loss or none. But that time may pass very quickly. After it has gone, the glue of circumstance rapidly hardens around your feet. You are stuck, perhaps for life.

Bill Battalla tells a story of avoidable bad luck. A young chemist left a small mining company to take a higher-paying job with a large organization near New York City. HIs wife thought he was making a mistake and would be miserable in an urban environment. His old boss also doubted that the young man would adapt well to life in a big company. "When you want to come back," he said, "just let me know."

Within a few months of moving, the chemist knew his wife and former boss were right. He didn't like life in the metropolis. Moreover, his job and prospects were both quite different from what he had signed for. This would have been the time to cut his losses, but the chemist kept hoping the bad beginning would evolve into a happy ending. By the time he finally determined that his problems weren't temporary, he was stuck.

It's hard to say, "I was wrong." Hard to abandon an investment of money, love, time, effort or commitment. Yet, as the late Gerald M Loeb, one of the brightest and luckiest stock- market speculators in recent times, put it, "Knowing when to sell out and having the guts to do it is an essential technique of successful living."

A Swiss banker and self-made millionaire summed it up this way: "If you are losing a tug-of-war with a tiger, give him the rope before he gets to your arm. You can always buy a new rope."

5. Prepare for Problems. Most lucky people nurture pessimism, guarding it against assaults, exercising it daily to keep it lean and hard. Said J Paul Getty, "When I go into any business deal, my chief thoughts are on how I'm going to save myself if things go wrong."

The uses of pessimism among the lucky can be articulated in terms of Murphy's Law: "If something can go wrong, it will." Never, never assume that you are fortune's darling. Never drop your guard.

A study of accidents among bus drivers in South Africa concluded that among "bad-risk" drivers--those involved in more than a normal share of accidents--an outstanding personality trait turned out to be over-optimism. The bad-risk driver had too much faith in his own skills, in other drivers' good sense and ability, and in luck.

Lucky men and women, notably more than the unlucky, are aware that no life is ever totally under the control of its owner. If you cling to an illusion of control, you won't build defenses against bad luck and, when bad luck does strike, you will be too demoralized to react in useful ways.

People who are lucky are by definition those whom fortune has favored--but one reason they are favored is that they never assume they will be. They know fortune is fickle.

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How to Succeed: 5 Steps for Getting Ahead

Get ahead = Choose your thing - Show up - Be better than everyone else!! Fantastic advice from Brendon Burchard. Enjoy:)

How To Stay Focused

Nothing more important in life when you are trying to achieve great things, than focus. Brendon Burchard is brilliant at breaking down big questions like this one.

Subliminal Messages: Fact or Fiction?

Get ready for a shock, a statement that might blow your mind and send you reeling in disbelief:

Subliminal messages work!

Despite some bad press to the contrary, evidence exists that proves subliminal messages can be an effective way to achieve a range of goals under certain controlled conditions. If you want them to work for you, here’s what you need to know:

• Not all subliminal message delivery systems are created equally. Make sure you get yours from a reputable supplier who has been in business for a long time and has plenty of satisfied customers.

• To make subliminal messages work in your favor, you need to be motivated to change. If you have a passionate desire to lose weight, to quit smoking, or to improve your productivity, for example, then subliminal messaging technology will help you achieve your goal.

• Using subliminal messages to enable you to make changes in your life is not a cop-out. They’re just another tool you have at your disposal to break bad habits and encourage new behaviors.

Here’s another way to look at it. If subliminal messages don’t work, why is there so much information written about them? Why do so many companies provide subliminal audio and video sessions? Surely if those sessions were useless, people would stop buying them and the companies would go out of business. But that’s not what’s been happening.

The Scientific Basis for Subliminal Messages

Your brain is the most complex machine known to man. It’s so complicated in fact, that even today we don’t know all that much about it. Some things, however, have been known for centuries.

We know, for example, that humans have a conscious and a subconscious mind. In simple terms, your conscious mind is only active when you’re awake. Your subconscious, on the other hand, is always active, and that brings up fascinating possibilities.

In the course of your day, you might hear or see something for a split second. In your conscious state you don’t take any notice of it, maybe because you’re rushing to get back to work after lunch, or struggling to get your car into the supermarket car park, or focused on what you’re going to prepare for your evening meal. You’re busy, there’s a lot to do, and there are only so many hours in the day. Makes sense that you couldn’t possibly focus on every single thing that happens.

Your subconscious mind, however, isn’t burdened by those decisions. It doesn’t have to worry about tonight’s meal, or driving the car, or getting back to the office, and so it’s free to let whatever else is going on around you drift right on in. So even if you’ve been exposed to “something” for a split second, your subconscious mind stores it away and you will be able to recall it at a later date.

It Just Pops Into Your Head

Ever sat watching a TV quiz show when a question came up that you answered instinctively? Then wondered how you knew it in the first place? It happens all the time. The information goes in, without your knowledge, and then when you need it... bam, it’s there. That’s the power exploited by subliminal messaging technology – the limitless power of the human mind.

The most important thing to remember about all this is that you have to be motivated to want to change. If you really want to do something about your figure, or your health, or your productivity, then subliminal technology will assist you in getting there. 

To take advantage of subliminal messages, check out the Subliminal360 app for your PC at http://affiliates.inspire3.com/a/jim 

Applying The Law Of Attraction In Everyday Life

By Brian Miller

Most certainly, you have found yourself in the situation where you simply stopped whatever you were doing to make a sort analysis of your life and reached the unfortunate conclusion that you are not who you have always imagined you would be. Instead of just feeling sad about this whole problem, you could just rely on the law of attraction and do something about it. A short law of attraction explanation is the fact that what you think and imagine is what you attract.

Even though your first impulse might be to think that is just something that successful people say to justify reaching their goals and not tell you their secrets, you should know that you are wrong. Most individuals do not even begin to realize just how this law of attraction works and how easy it can change their lives. If you are ready to apply the healthy principles associated with the law of attraction to your own situation, here’s what you need to do.

Start by making an in-depth analysis of your personal and professional life. Are you happy about what is happening in these departments? This is the time to ask yourself the most difficult questions and actually find an honest answer to every single one of them. As soon as you start being positive, you are going to find all sorts of opportunities that you can take advantage of so that you can lead a different life, a better one. No matter how you look at it, if you are not being true with yourself and what is preventing you from achieving your goals, you will not be able to find an effective solution to any of it.

Do not mistake this amazing law of attraction as an excuse that you can use when you do not want to do anything and just decide to think positive. Obviously, that is not enough. Despite the fact that positive thoughts are a powerful weapon, you will still need to put in the work that can help you get to where you want to be. Instead of just feeling sad about this whole problem, you could just rely on the law of attraction and do something about it. If your destination is a life where you have the ideal weight, great friends or more than enough money, the law of attraction will allow you to get there.

It is all a matter of understanding that it all begins with your thoughts. But every single positive thought must be materialized one way or the other. As soon as you start being positive, you are going to find all sorts of opportunities that you can take advantage of so that you can lead a different life, a better one. Cut out all the negativity in your life and toxic people that do not allow you to evolve as an individual. Most individuals do not even begin to realize just how this law of attraction works and how easy it can change their lives. You will soon notice that your overall state of mind is much better than it has ever been.

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The Path To Success Is A Very Lonely Road

By Tony Fahkry

Journaling.

Yes, this simple daily habit will make you become a better person, because the simplest habits are ones that produce the greatest results.

It is the compound effect journaling offers that often goes unnoticed.

Journaling has many unexpected benefits, one of which is improved mental and emotional wellbeing.

Many people ruminate on problems that gnaw at them, sometimes for decades.

Brain scientist Jill Bolte Taylor suggests that the average lifespan of an emotion to move through the nervous system is one and a half minutes. This releases the burden of clinging to our emotional attachments longer than required.

This daily habit helps you to make peace with toxic emotions and transform them into healthy ones. Otherwise, they remain 'stuck' in your nervous system instead of moving through you.

The simple act of writing in your journal on a daily basis helps you to be mindful of the present moment, instead of being caught up in the past or future.

"All clutter and stress seem to be found on the surface, on the level of thinking and emotions," affirms Peter Francis Dziuban in: Simply Notice: Clear Awareness Is the Key To Happiness, Love and Freedom.

Mindfulness is a way to attain clarity as to what really matters. You become attuned to your emotions instead of allowing them to control you.

I recall listening to the spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle state that anytime you are emotionally agitated for no reason, you are recollecting unresolved memories and creating a Pain body experience.

Similarly, Colette Baron Reid writes in Uncharted: The Journey Through Uncertainty to Infinite Possibility: "Memories are emotions intertwined with thoughts, and those can become lodged not just in your brain but in your body too."

Journaling is the act of making sense of those memories by transferring them onto paper, otherwise they lead to conditions such as T.M.S. (Tension Myositis Syndrome), according to Dr. John Sarno.

Repressed emotions resulting from psychological stress are stored in the body and may inhibit muscle and/or organ function if left untreated.

Writing your thoughts on paper is a form of emotional freedom. There are moments in our lives where we must bite our tongue with family, friends and co-workers for obvious reasons.

We cannot express our feelings, so we stow them away hoping they don't resurface down the road. This is the psychological pain point many people experience later in life.

The key is to allow your emotions to move through you using a method Dr. Daniel Siegel outlines in his book Mindsight. He suggests you name and tame the emotions you experience rather than be overwhelmed by them.

Journaling helps identify the troubling emotions by writing them as "I feel angry" instead of "I am angry." The latter is a limited self-definition since, "I feel angry" implies the ability to acknowledge a feeling, without being overwhelmed by it.

"Just by bringing greater attention to the part of your body where strong emotions or physical pain linger, you are loosening each layer of cellular memory to assist in another moment of healing," affirms Matt Kahn.

I suggest exploring your thoughts on paper as the last thing at night after a complete day. In Zen teaching, meditation is thought to help wipe away the day's stressors by witnessing our thoughts through the eyes of equanimity.

Journaling purges you of mental stressors. It is the process of becoming intimate with your thoughts instead of allowing them to occupy space in your mind.

You become attentive to your mental landscape instead of letting runaway thoughts impose on your freedom.

This simple daily habit will make you become a better person, because you are aware of your thoughts and won't be overcome by them.

Committing your thoughts to paper invites you to calmly witness them with a clear awareness rather than an agitated mind.

Tibetan meditation master Orgyen Chowang explains in Our Pristine Mind: A Practical Guide to Unconditional Happiness: "You must first relax the mind and then observe it with patience and perseverance. It is that simple."

Journaling is the act of coming home to yourself and loving the person whose thoughts appear on the page.

What we see and perceive in our waking life results from the mind adding judgement and commentary, like morning fog.

Writing your thoughts downloads them onto paper and liberates you of the need to process them any more than you need to.

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Why You Need a Daily Affirmation Practice | Jack Canfield

This has to be tried to be believed. It DOES work!!