By T. Harv Eker
Have you
ever felt guilty about accepting a reward? I’m not talking about getting a hand
out here, but actually being comfortable and feeling good about finding a way
to reward yourself for your hard work. Ready on to learn how to fully celebrate
your successes and remove all guilt in your life!
Celebrate
Success by Learning to Reward Yourself
If you’ve
ever felt like you “can’t” or “won’t” reward yourself for your hard work, I’m
going to give you three simple steps to follow to remove all guilt… so you can
celebrate each of your successes and feel great about rewarding yourself.
1. The
golden rule of rewarding yourself
When it
comes to finding ways to reward yourself, follow this golden rule: do what
works for you.
For most
people, they don’t have a ‘play jar’ to spoil themselves. They don’t take time
for themselves. They don’t focus on loving themselves.
They don’t
focus on that feeling of satisfaction and accomplishment for more than three
seconds before it becomes doubt, judgment and “What’s the next thing?”
The reason
I incorporate rewards so heavily into my “Ultimate
Life Makeover System” web class is because number 1, many times it’s
tangible. When you buy that dress you’ve wanted or that jacket you’ve wanted
and you see it in your closet all of the time, you’ll say, “Wow, it’s worth
doing the things I committed to doing!”
And number
2, rewarding yourself for your accomplishments gives you the motivation, drive,
and self-confidence to keep moving towards your goals with momentum.
Many
people won’t give themselves a little reward here and there, which is why
it’s so important to take the time to do this consciously.
Here’s the
simplest way I teach to do this: Set an action and a deadline for that action
to be completed,, set a reward, and when you complete that action, take your
reward! Then… repeat this over and over and over again.
So, what
works or WILL work for you when it comes to patting yourself on the back for a
job well done?
2.
Redefine rewards
If you
believe that you should only get a reward for doing something difficult, then
you need to rethink this belief immediately.
The bottom
line is if you associate rewards with something difficult, you created that belief.
In other
words, you were taught that if you do something unpleasant or difficult, you
deserve and should get a reward.
But then
what if you don’t do something difficult? Well, you don’t get one… right?
This is
faulty thinking, and something that holds a lot of people back. You can and
should get rewarded for accomplishing things you actually enjoy doing, too.
For
example, if you ENJOY your work, and you are successful with it, guess what?
You should be REWARDED for that!
You
shouldn’t have to do work that you hate, and that is unpleasant and difficult
simply to make money because you’ve linked rewards with unpleasantness.
If this is
something you believe, then very unconsciously you have linked getting rewards
from unpleasantness—and this singular belief is holding you back from enjoying
your work, your life, and blocking you from experiencing true happiness.
3. Move
beyond “either/or”
If you
associate rewards with pain and suffering, then you’re living in an either/or
world.
Remember
what I said in my book Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: most people
live in an either/or world. Either it’s money or happiness,
money or spirituality, money or health, money orfree
time, money or this, money or that.
How about
we do what we love? How about we enjoy what we do? How about we do very
pleasant and wonderful things and we get a reward as well?
Imagine
this is your new rule: I can do what I love and get rewarded.
I can do
what I enjoy and get rewarded in all kinds of ways, not just satisfaction and
accomplishment (because the mind doesn’t hold onto these for longer than 3
seconds).
Instead,
write down what you want in your life including all the “luxuries” you’ve ever
dreamed of. They could be material. They could be any kinds of things, but
you’ve got to allow yourself to enjoy them.
I’ll tell
you why many people don’t do this: it’s because the conditioned, fear-based
mind doesn’t want that. Because if you’re really nice to you and really good to
you, then what is your mind supposed to do?
Its job is
to look for the problems; to mainly look for what’s wrong. You must
consciously step in and stop this in its tracks!
By
unlinking rewards from unpleasantness, and instead believing that you deserve
to be rewarded for ALL the great things you accomplish, you’ll begin operating
on a higher energy plane – and living a more abundant, happy, fulfilled life in
the process.
