Remember your parents saying things like, 'money is the root of all evil' and 'all rich people are greedy' or better yet 'money doesn't grow on trees'?
Well, how do you expect to become a success financially if you believe these things?
First of all, believing that "money doesn't grow on trees" is an example of what's called lack or scarcity programming. Old fashioned parents taught kids that money is scarce and it isn't abundant as we know it is. But in truth, the universe is very abundant, and there is lots of money to go around for everyone.
The key is to start thinking that you deserve the money and that there is lots of it available for you, and then you can start attracting it into your life. That's abundance thinking, which is the opposite of lack or scarcity thinking.
And what about thinking that "money is the root of all evil"? Can you really expect to become a success if you believe that money is the root of all evil? Unless your true desire is to be evil, then your subconscious will keep you from becoming rich as it's a juxtaposition.
By the way, that quote is taken out of context in the first place. It was originally stated as "the love of money is the root of all evil". So it has nothing to do with the money itself.
Now that you understand that, you can start to think that money is in fact good. You can help people with money. You can stimulate the economy with money. Even the most kind-hearted spiritual person, who says they don't need money, can do more to make the world a better place with money than without money.
And what about thinking that "all rich people are greedy"? Well, that creates an "us versus them" mentality, whereby you have labeled all of "them" greedy in your mind. You, on the other hand, are very giving in your mind. That's why you don't have money, because you're not greedy.
Obviously there are greedy rich people in this materialistic world. But there are also poor people who are greedy. There are both rich and poor people who are very giving as well. The amount of money you have has nothing to do with these character traits.
In fact, a lot of rich people got there by not being greedy. Having a giving attitude opens up a flow of money that often brings them more. You will find the same thing... give away money joyfully to a friend, and notice that it comes back to you in some other form. The game we play is a little bit of give and take, so go out and joyfully give as well as receive... this will keep you in harmonious flow.
And changing your mindset from what you were taught as a child to a healthier view of money will allow you to become the financial success you deserve to be.
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Why we do what we do | Tony Robbins
The brilliant Tony Robbins giving a TED talk back in 2007. 10m views and counting, amazing. The man is unstoppable!!
10 Things Successful People Never Do Again
We all make mistakes but the people who thrive from their mistakes are the successful ones.
“Never go back.” What does that mean? From observations of successful people, clinical psychologist and author of Never Go Back: 10 Things You'll Never Do Again (Howard Books, June 2014), Dr. Henry Cloud has discovered certain “awakenings” that people have—in life and in business—that once they have them, they never go back to the old way of doing things. And when that happens, they are never the same. In short, they got it.
“Years ago, a bad business decision of mine led to an interesting discussion with my mentor,” Dr. Cloud says. “I had learned a valuable lesson the hard way, and he reassured me: ‘The good thing is once you learn that lesson, you never go back. You never do it again.’
“I wondered, what are the key awakenings that successful people go through that forever change how they do things, which propel them to succeed in business, relationships, and life? I began to study these awakenings, researching them over the years.”
Although life and business have many lessons to teach us, Dr. Cloud observed 10 “doorways” of learning that high performers go through, never to return again.
Successful people never again…
1. Return to what hasn’t worked.
Whether a job, or a broken relationship that was ended for a good reason, we should never go back to the same thing, expecting different results, without something being different.
2. Do anything that requires them to be someone they are not.
In everything we do, we have to ask ourselves, “Why am I doing this? Am I suited for it? Does it fit me? Is it sustainable?” If the answer is no to any of these questions, you better have a very good reason to proceed.
3. Try to change another person.
When you realize that you cannot force someone into doing something, you give him or her freedom and allow them to experience the consequences. In doing so, you find your own freedom as well.
4. Believe they can please everyone.
Once you get that it truly is impossible to please everyone, you begin to live purposefully, trying to please the right people.
5. Choose short-term comfort over long-term benefit.
Once successful people know they want something that requires a painful, time-limited step, they do not mind the painful step because it gets them to a long-term benefit. Living out this principle is one of the most fundamental differences between successful and unsuccessful people, both personally and professionally.
6. Trust someone or something that appears flawless.
It’s natural for us to be drawn to things and people that appear "incredible." We love excellence and should always be looking for it. We should pursue people who are great at what they do, employees who are high performers, dates who are exceptional people, friends who have stellar character, and companies that excel. But when someone or something looks too good to be true, he, she, or it is. The world is imperfect. Period. No one and no thing is without flaw, and if they appear that way, hit pause.
7. Take their eyes off the big picture.
We function better emotionally and perform better in our lives when we can see the big picture. For successful people, no one event is ever the whole story. Winners remember that—each and every day.
8. Neglect to do due diligence.
No matter how good something looks on the outside, it is only by taking a deeper, diligent, and honest look that we will find out what we truly need to know: the reality that we owe ourselves.
9. Fail to ask why they are where they find themselves.
One of the biggest differences between successful people and others is that in love and in life, in relationships and in business, successful people always ask themselves, what part am I playing in this situation? Said another way, they do not see themselves only as victims, even when they are.
10. Forget that their inner life determines their outer success.
The good life sometimes has little to do with outside circumstances. We are happy and fulfilled mostly by who we are on the inside. Research validates that. And our internal lives largely contribute to producing many of our external circumstances.
And, the converse is true: people who are still trying to find success in various areas of life can almost always point to one or more of these patterns as a reason they are repeating the same mistakes.
Everyone makes mistakes…even the most successful people out there. But, what achievers do better than others is recognize the patterns that are causing those mistakes and never repeat them again. In short, they learn from pain—their own and the pain of others.
A good thing to remember is this: pain is unavoidable, but repeating the same pain twice, when we could choose to learn and do something different, is certainly avoidable. I like to say, “we don’t need new ways to fail….the old ones are working just fine!” Our task, in business and in life, is to observe what they are, and never go back to doing them again.
The Secrets to Self-Mastery | Interview with Dr John Demartini
Fascinating interview with Dr Demartini. Extremely insightful!!
Finding Your Purpose
Your purpose is inherent. If you are unclear on what it is, it is waiting to be revealed from deep within your heart. It is simply clouded over by your mind’s seven primary fears that block its realization and fullest expression. To transcend these fears – kneel down at the side of your bed at the end of each day before going to sleep with a note pad and pen in hand. Think about everything you can be grateful for from that day and make a list of experiences that you can truly be grateful for until you are so grateful a tear comes out of your eyes. Then turn inward to your most authentic and powerful self – your soul – and ask:
“What message do you have for me today?”
“What action step am I to take to fulfill my life?”
“What detail can you reveal about my life mission or vision?”
If you don’t receive a message immediately then go back and think more deeply about what you’re truly grateful for and then ask these questions again.
If you are truly grateful a vision or message will be immediate, loud and clear. When this voice and vision on the inside becomes louder and more profound than all opinions on the outside you have begun to master your life.
Do these actions for at least thirty days until you no longer have to ask the question about what your mission or purpose is. You will then know with certainty. Then add to this insight by thinking about what you know you would love to do and write it down. Start with what you know with certainty and let what you know grow. Read it, refine it, read it, refine it, and keep reading it and refining it until it becomes crystal clear.
Also review all the heroes you have had in your life and look for what is common to them – they leave clues and review all the jobs or careers you have had and look for what is common – they also leave clues. Add all this up and you will have a great idea or first draft of what your mission or purpose is.
The true you, has a profound contribution to offer the world. The true you, does not play small. The true you, is brilliant beyond compare.
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“What message do you have for me today?”
“What action step am I to take to fulfill my life?”
“What detail can you reveal about my life mission or vision?”
If you don’t receive a message immediately then go back and think more deeply about what you’re truly grateful for and then ask these questions again.
If you are truly grateful a vision or message will be immediate, loud and clear. When this voice and vision on the inside becomes louder and more profound than all opinions on the outside you have begun to master your life.
Do these actions for at least thirty days until you no longer have to ask the question about what your mission or purpose is. You will then know with certainty. Then add to this insight by thinking about what you know you would love to do and write it down. Start with what you know with certainty and let what you know grow. Read it, refine it, read it, refine it, and keep reading it and refining it until it becomes crystal clear.
Also review all the heroes you have had in your life and look for what is common to them – they leave clues and review all the jobs or careers you have had and look for what is common – they also leave clues. Add all this up and you will have a great idea or first draft of what your mission or purpose is.
The true you, has a profound contribution to offer the world. The true you, does not play small. The true you, is brilliant beyond compare.
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- May 11, 2016
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Keep This In Mind When Starting Something New
If it's not hard at first it's not real change.
The discomfort of transformation is much less painful than stagnation.
The discomfort of transformation is much less painful than stagnation.
Where you are now is just where you are now - it’s not a prediction for the future. Life has something in store for you, let your bigness see the light of day.
Be an expert at being you!
These are just four of the many notes and quotes I got from one of the amazing coaches I have worked with. She and her husband had been to the Titan Summit in Zurich which was four days of talks from some of the best thought leaders and inspirational entrepreneurs the world has to offer.
While I was scanning through the notes I took from her takeaways, these four really stood out to me. As someone who has struggled with the frustrations and anxieties of a quarter life crisis - feeling the strong desire to do something extraordinary with my life but getting stuck on fear and self-doubt, giving myself loads of reasons why I couldn’t do anything more than what I was already doing even if it was making me miserable - to now, having come through the other side and taking action towards the life that I want, the life that truly aligns with who I am and what I have to offer. These notes represent perfectly some of the huge lessons I’ve been learning.
If it’s not hard at first it’s not real change. I am currently in the middle of the book The Alchemist, one of the parts I read last night said, “Imagine if everyone went around transforming lead into gold. Gold would lose it’s value. It’s only those who are persistent, and willing to study things deeply, who achieve the Master Work.”This kinda says it all really, it’s the reason why not everyone in the world is wealthy and successful, it’s why not everyone is truly happy doing something with their lives that they love. It’s hard work and there’s a lot of persistence and self-belief that needs to be put into practice to get there. Not everyone is willing or courageous enough to do it.
If it’s not hard at first it’s not real change. I am currently in the middle of the book The Alchemist, one of the parts I read last night said, “Imagine if everyone went around transforming lead into gold. Gold would lose it’s value. It’s only those who are persistent, and willing to study things deeply, who achieve the Master Work.”This kinda says it all really, it’s the reason why not everyone in the world is wealthy and successful, it’s why not everyone is truly happy doing something with their lives that they love. It’s hard work and there’s a lot of persistence and self-belief that needs to be put into practice to get there. Not everyone is willing or courageous enough to do it.
The discomfort of transformation is much less painful than stagnation. This was the driving force for me in changing my path and becoming an entrepreneur, going against the norm and stepping into the unknown is uncomfortable but It’s so much better than the unhappiness and the anxiety I felt before. One of the scariest concepts to me is the thought of getting old and wishing I’d lived more true to myself.
Where you are now is just where you are now - it’s not a prediction for the future. Life has something in store for you, let you bigness see the light of day. I love to think about this every time I see all the amazing people doing incredible things and living the life of their dreams and then I look around at my living room/home office where I’m sat in my Pyjama’s working away on my laptop thinking, “How am I ever going to get to where they are?” I know I am going to get where they are because I know why I’m here and I am going to keep going.
Be an expert at being you! This has been huge for me recently. As much mindset work as I’ve done I have realised that what holds me back the most is that I’m a recovering people pleaser. When you have coping strategies like being a people pleaser to avoid confrontation or to feel accepted, you aren’t fully being yourself. I have been doing a lot of meditation and journalling on this lately and I am definitely getting better at catching myself when I start repeating those old habits. I have really looked at who I am and why I do what I do and getting comfortable with that means I feel a lot less worried about whether or not other people like me or get me. I am becoming an expert at being me and it’s fricken awesome!
I wanted to share these insights with you and encourage you to think about how they apply to your life. Is there something you're putting off doing because it seems like it'll be too hard? Are you feeling stagnant right now and if so what is that telling you about the path you are on? Are you too caught up in 'reality' thinking that because of your current circumstances there's a limit to what you can achieve? And are you an expert at being you? Are you living in a way that is truly authentic to you or do you judge yourself, do you worry that other people are judging you and do you avoid confrontations or feel like you have to justify yourself a lot? If so it might be time to start getting to know you better and start loving it!
Where you are now is just where you are now - it’s not a prediction for the future. Life has something in store for you, let you bigness see the light of day. I love to think about this every time I see all the amazing people doing incredible things and living the life of their dreams and then I look around at my living room/home office where I’m sat in my Pyjama’s working away on my laptop thinking, “How am I ever going to get to where they are?” I know I am going to get where they are because I know why I’m here and I am going to keep going.
Be an expert at being you! This has been huge for me recently. As much mindset work as I’ve done I have realised that what holds me back the most is that I’m a recovering people pleaser. When you have coping strategies like being a people pleaser to avoid confrontation or to feel accepted, you aren’t fully being yourself. I have been doing a lot of meditation and journalling on this lately and I am definitely getting better at catching myself when I start repeating those old habits. I have really looked at who I am and why I do what I do and getting comfortable with that means I feel a lot less worried about whether or not other people like me or get me. I am becoming an expert at being me and it’s fricken awesome!
I wanted to share these insights with you and encourage you to think about how they apply to your life. Is there something you're putting off doing because it seems like it'll be too hard? Are you feeling stagnant right now and if so what is that telling you about the path you are on? Are you too caught up in 'reality' thinking that because of your current circumstances there's a limit to what you can achieve? And are you an expert at being you? Are you living in a way that is truly authentic to you or do you judge yourself, do you worry that other people are judging you and do you avoid confrontations or feel like you have to justify yourself a lot? If so it might be time to start getting to know you better and start loving it!
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